The longer you’re in a relationship the more likely it is you will at some point wonder whether it would be a good idea to take a break from your relationship. There can be many good reasons to take a break but it may also be because you or your partner doesn’t see a future in your relationship.
Hearing your partner say that they want a break can be a terrifying thing. It feels the same as a breakup but you are left with a lot of uncertainty which can cause you to feel anxious. However, this time apart does not have to be a bad thing. It can give you time to reflect on your relationship too and rediscover yourself. This can improve your relationship once you are back together. Even if one of you decide to call it quits, you will be better able to cope if you have had a break prior. Breaks can serve as transitional periods between being in a relationship and being single.
Having a break will allow you to take the time and space to think about what it is you really want and need in a relationship. When we are with our partners it can be difficult to view the relationship objectively as we are consumed with our feelings. If you are on a break you can have the distance you need in order to take a more rational look at your relationship.
You can gouge whether you actually miss this person when you’re apart or if life is better without them in it. Our significant others should add to our life, not take away from it. You may find you prefer life without this person or you may find that you would rather not live life without them. Regardless, you will realise how you truly feel about the person you are with and the space could make the heart grow fonder.
Sometimes when we are in long term relationships we can lose who we really are and become one with our partners. A break can help you figure out what you really enjoy and value in your life – separate from your partner. You can take this time to develop the parts of you that don’t get as much focus when you are with your partner. Sometimes growing on our own is the best way to continue growing together.
Breaks can be terrifying if you believe your relationship could suffer, but in the end, it will help you figure out what you really want in a relationship. They can help you grow as an individual. It may help even help you grow closer to your partner. If it creates more distance, it is likely due to the fact there was already an issue in your relationship and the break has just hurried things along. Even so, this is ultimately a good thing. We don’t want to waste time with the wrong person, right?
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